In your experience, what is the most delicious use of bacon?
If you were going to give advice to a woman who wanted to break into on-line journalism, what would it be?
Have you seen my work history? Blog for fun, but don't quit your day job unless you miss eating Ramen and Mac & Cheese for dinner, hate buying new clothes, dislike the daily company of others, and can stand constant attacks on your looks, intelligence, point of view, everything you've ever written and anything you've ever done.
Yeah, I'm kind of a masochist.
In terms of real advice, I'd say if you're just out of school, you're probably screwed unless somewhere you've interned is hiring a fact checker. If you're mid-career, you'll either have to market yourself well as an expert in your field, and/or write for free or almost-free while still at your day job for at least a year or two before you can pick up enough steady freelance work to cover your Ramen and wine bills. Be sure you really want to do it, because it's not lucrative, it's often not fun, it's not steady work these days and you need a thick skin. But that's gender-free advice.
Favorite person you have ever dated? Least favorite? And why to both?
The favorite is obviously the person I am currently dating, or else I wouldn't currently be dating him.
The least favorite would be the compulsive liar I dated in 2003. He'd be tied with the one from the 90s, but the latter gentleman passed away last year so he gets a pass these days.
If you could suggest five experiences everyone in America should have that would most improve them as people, what would they be?
1. Live somewhere far away from your comfort zone for long enough that you stop minding that you're not home.
2. Talk to people who aren't like you and who disagree with you without jumping down their throats.
3. At least once, do something "unladylike" if you're a woman, and "girly" if you're a man--and preferably as often as you want.
4. Hold someone you care about while they cry without asking them to hush or stop.
5. When you're unhappy with something in your life, change it.
Where in the world would you live if money were not an issue? What would do with your time?
If money were not an issue, I wouldn't live anywhere. I'd just travel to as many places as I possibly could, and talk to as many people as I possibly could. I'd probably keep a home base of sorts in New York, and maybe Berlin.
The idea that women who drink are an affront to the “ideals of femininity” has contributed to the widespread perception that drunk women are less-than-perfect rape victims. The perception that female drinking is a conscious sexual subversion on the part of women is problematic on a number of levels. First, it tells women who drink that they’re asking for it; that if they are raped, they are somehow responsible for the crime committed against them; that it is their deviant decisions that caused them to be raped. Second, it tells rapists that women who drink are not valued by society; that they are considered “lesser” women; that everyone knows drunk girls are down for sex, and no one will believe they can be raped. In other words, it points out exactly who rapists ought to target in order to avoid the consequences of their crimes.
But I’ve found that insulting someone, especially by using a back-handed compliment, is a really great way to run off a guy that’s hitting on you in the most douchebaggy way. I recently told a guy who came up and dropped a really stupid line on me that I was surprised he had the nerve to approach me, because I’d imagine a guy like him would usually be intimidated by someone like me. I think that fit all the neg rules---there was a back-handed compliment buried in there, I established that I had a right to cast judgment, established my social dominance, and implied that he should feel insecure, which pick-up artists promise will make the neg receiver try to prove their worth. Instead, it threw him for a loop, and he didn’t like it, and therefore wasn’t even remotely interested in stalling me as I made my escape.
Andrew Cuomo's Advice for Slave Barack ObamaUnfortunately, this post was lost to the interwebs. Currently, all the links reroute to this edited bullshit.
Jan 10, 2008, 3:05pm
New York Attorney General Andrew Cuomo, son of Mario and nephew of Luigi, loves him some Billary, and he's not afraid to get racist when it comes to black candidate Barack Obama. Yesterday, he used the words "shuck and jive" in reference to Barack Obama's campaign tactics. "Shuck and jive" is a term we use frequently on Wonkette to describe the same thing —...
Andrew Cuomo Uses Phrase That Made Some People UncomfortableThe "Ed" in that is, of course, Ken Layne. Why, might you ask, would Ken Layne, Managing Editor of Wonkette, remove a piece of fucking hilarious, awesome satire of an elected official's racist comments from Wonkette in an election year? Well, I think the title is some idea.
(This post was updated at 5:16 p.m.) Andrew Cuomo’s press office says he wasn’t referring to Barack Obama but to the overall primary campaign when he used the term “shuck and jive” during an interview Wednesday. Some people think that’s a racist phrase. Some don’t. But Cuomo’s press office seems to agree there’s something unsavory about saying “shuck and jive,” because now Cuomo claims he meant to say “bob and weave,” which doesn’t mean anything at all. And none of the “jokes” in this post make any sense now, so they’re gone. — Ed.
Also, my driver is playing Oleta Adams. You know he doesn't listen to this on his own. I feel somewhat insulted that he deemed this my taste in music. Only somewhat, because I do own this song BUT it is not on my iPod, which I feel is the definitive list of what I really listen to anyway.
When I was little, I had an aversion to rain. When I got to college, I convinced myself that I hated the feeling of squinting when raindrops hit my eyebrows.
Once, in grad school, there was a Noah-ian storm, and finally I donned a swimsuit and headed out. I loved it. I love even more being clothed in a storm as an adult and feeling the rain pound my face and body in its randomness, curling my hair and soaking my clothes and deliberately connecting me to some reality I was drinking to forget.
the woman she described is not you. i've certainly met those women, but you are not it.From the people that don't actually know me, I think the reaction can be summed up as some measure of insulted on my behalf (thanks!) and insulted at the thought that single women are not coupled because they simply don't try hard enough to be -- and that their singlehood (which they feel she automatically deems problematic) can be solved with a little make-up, a cute skirt and a couple nights out on the town or a Match.com profile. For instance, one response I got:
i'm too angry after reading her column to write anything remotely intelligent or coherent about why she is a horrible human yet i feel how despicable she is with all of my being. i'm sure you have many, many more intelligent and insightful things to say about that. atterberry is a brainless wonder, pandering to a sect of people who want the return of the good old days when men were men and women knew their place.I think she falls into the "insulted" camp.
This made me chuckle, especially since I don't see much similarity in anything the writer assumes and you, especially the 'don't go out and meet people' thing. What if there really are few decent guys to date? Is it anti male for me to say that I think there's a lot of men out there that I wouldn't want anyone to date because I've met way too many douchey guys that I couldn't even in good conscience recommend to people I know for a one nighter? There's always [hot guy friend who you had a flirtation with] but he's married now I think. Course, I could always let you know about [hot dude friend you made out with once]. Anyway, you've probably seen your mention but I got a kick out of it.Because, see, the thought that the article is about me cracks him up. Also, if you live in Boston, he is awesome and single, so, you know, it's real easy to find my email address.
When I would get into fights with my emotionally and occasionally physically abusive ex-boyfriend, he would often say to me, smugly, “If it’s so bad, why don’t you leave?” It was a rhetorical question, the intent behind it to remind me, as I was often reminded, that his treatment of me was my fault, that someone who was smarter or less emotional or whatever it was that day would command better treatment.I dated a guy like that, as I mentioned once before:
Several years later, during a fight with a boyfriend in which I told him he had to stop speaking to me in a certain way or else, he said, "Or else what? You didn't report your rape, what are you going to have the backbone to do to me?" I hung up the phone.I did not, however, leave. There were fights after that, fights during which he would resort to name-calling if he felt he was losing, fights I wouldn't back down from because I don't do fear (I think that's called "hubris"). There were other things, like being compared to his exes, being occasionally called degrading names during sex and being pressured into being "nice" to people I didn't like, that wore at me bit by bit. It was intense, it was destructive and the drawn-out end of it that had more to do with him wanting to achieve our official anniversary than actually wanting to be with me did a wallop on my self-esteem to the point that I avoided emotional intensity, strong-willed men and being true to my emotional and undiplomatic self for many years.
Like, perhaps, doing my taxes. But, to continue:
Scorpio persons tend to be somewhat retreating, pensive individuals, however they are usually quite self-confident, with plenty of personal power. Fear levels are low, which allows them to deal with great adversity and danger in the challenges of their lives. It tends to have a certain conservative element to it, especially with strong Saturn influences. Scorpio tends to be dominant in many situations.
They tend to be rather sure of themselves, sometimes a bit too much so. This may be problematic as, being a water sign, Scorpio's perception is influenced by emotions and thus may not be the best source for objectivity. They will nevertheless be pushed to question themselves deeply when an issue blows up in their face.
Although ambition is a trait often attributed to Capricorn, Scorpio is really the most ambitious sign in the zodiac, however this often gets exhausted through idle conflict, intrigue and lack of good vibes. A strong chart can push this through, although then they may well overdo it.This sign has a certain tendency to be disorderly in things that it is not intensely interested in.
This sign has some tendency for being heavy-handed and manipulative, a result of a naturally overbearing personality, strong desires and obsessive mentality. There is a certain tendency to do things in a rather controversial manner, as it tends to be poor in diplomacy unless Venus is strong in the chart. They feel things so intensely that it is difficult for them not to enter altercation. In its essence it can be somewhat rowdy and crude, but is often influenced by strong social pressures to moderate its outer demeanor. It tends to be demanding, sometimes even annoyingly so.I am an ineffective communicator, it's true. And the other chart says:
Some may find them somewhat tough to love, as there is a certain roughness in the Scorpian character. Similarly, they can be poor in awareness of hurt they cause some people, and be baffled when someone treats them badly, seemingly out of the blue. Part of this is caused by issues of ineffective communication. Nevertheless, Scorpios can be amazingly protective of their close ones and be ready to go to extreme lengths for them.
Reputed to be the "most powerful" sign of the zodiac, Scorpios lead fate filled lives and have intense and dramatic personal relationships.Um...
Much to do with a Scorpio remains ever secret. Their eyes often blaze with feelings that words never express, and beware on the days or nights they hide their feelings behind dark glasses, there is likely to be a storm of some kind brewing. When you deal with a Scorpio you have to always deal with them on a psychic intuitive level. They often wear a mask. Too often they say "no" when they really mean "yes". They have contrary natures. Once they find true love they can be the most faithful dedicated of all partners but fall out badly with a Scorpio and you are likely to find they will never forget or forgive.I don't wear my sunglasses at night, but I don't tend to let things go, it's true.